Showing posts with label Amy Hawkins blog. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Amy Hawkins blog. Show all posts

Sunday, July 28, 2013

My Post for the "Marriage Generation" Blog

I have the honor of being a contributor to this fantastic website: Marriage Generation. It is a collection of young adults who are working to make marriage cool again. Here is a sample of my latest piece. Keep reading on their site via the link below. 

Please note I have also added a direct link to their site in one of my main menu options.

Silent Cheerleaders
"I love following pop culture, technology advances, and fashion trends. When one monitors these things, one comes across many juicy tidbits on relationships’ of the famous. And as a Christian who is an advocate for lifetime marriage, I notice when marriages fall apart even among our cultural VIPs.

"There are a few couples in Hollywood I have my eye on right now. Unbeknownst to them, I’m the quiet cheerleader behind the laptop screen or the fashion magazine who is cheering when I see they are still together. It’s true, I pray for Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck; I’m in exhilarating awe at the marriage longevity for Faith Hill and Tim McGraw; I’m thankful that Jada Pinket Smith and Will Smith still make their marriage work--15 years and counting. My heart sings when I learn of a limelight marriage that has lasted for over 20 years. In celebration of Tom Hanks’ 25 year marriage milestone Parade Magazine took a look at 15 of the longest lasting marriages. I don’t expect Hollywood’s elites to have perfect marriages, but I celebrate when they stick it out.

"I realize personal life behind the public glamour is different all together; but I hope for their success. Angst creeps in when I consider the reality that – given the trend of marriages among the rich and famous – it is highly possibly their union may come to screeching halt.

"It’s true, I’m the one who grieves when a Hollywood couple’s marriage breaks down..." (keep reading)

Monday, April 8, 2013

Op Ed: To Compete or Die

To all the well-meaning coaches, teachers, parents, day care providers, professors and doting grandparents, I have one very important question for you: Why are you trying to kill our spirit to excel?

You ask us to play nice, to appease the loser, to dispel the disappointment. You expect us to share the glory, run slower so someone else won’t feel left out, and to share the first place blue ribbon with 30 other children. To not win first place, get the highest promotion or graduate with the distinguished honors while others are valued less seems morally wrong to some. After all, life just isn’t fair, but it should be.

Or, should it?

Ever since the Garden of Eden, there has been competition. Adam and Eve battled with their will and discovered the eternal competition between good and evil. A babe competes for his mother’s attention. A man pursues a woman in hopes, but not guarantee, of winning her heart. The Founding Fathers competed for the colonist’s loyalty: freedom as independent American or tyranny with restraints under King George. The buck vies for the doe. The hawk scurries for his game. The sunshine races to pierce the clouds. The mind vies between reason and faith, human nature vs God and decisions to obey vs disobey. Competition is a part of life. Competition is not easy. But it is something that makes us better than we were before, whether we are the last in line or the first to complete the race.

The question is not how to eliminate the sting of a defeat. But the question you as adults, parents, guardians are slowly subtly surrendering to is will I allow my child to fail? Failure is not for forever, but if you allow it, it can be the tantalizing lure to hasten our steps to something even better.

To win has sometimes a momentary victory or a long time reward. To lose has momentary disappointment but even more so than a win, it makes someone even more a champ based on how one responds. To some it is a catalyst for the buffing of their character, refining of their skills, or harnessing of one’s nature. It can make a boy a man, a girl a woman, an Olympic hopeful a gold medallion owner. By fostering the opportunities for fair competition, taking advantages of losses to put life in perspective, and helping your child or young adult determine how to improve their skill – you help them for life.

So next time your child’s little league coach wants to give a gold trophy to all the children, your teenager’s high school has 12 Valedictorians out of 24 graduates, or you have to make a decision to provide all your employees with a raise even though they did not all perform with excellence to necessarily deserve the reward, take a stand.

You do us no favors by fighting for us to have the right to have no competition at all. Everything in life is a competition. But it’s how you help frame it that sets our course. Help us be a generation, not of apathy but a generation motivated with passion to increase our success. To lose is okay. It makes the wins all the sweeter. And it makes us a better person in the process.

- ajh

Lack of competition – results in apathy: “If you're not gonna go all the way, why go at all?” 

Monday, April 1, 2013

FRC Social Conservative Review

Family Research Council is one of the groups I LOVE promoting! I am so grateful for their work. They are definitely a Watchman on the Wall for those who care about traditional family values.

Here is a portion or sample of their Social Conservative Review. Visit the post on their site for the whole list! Sign up for their emails and support their work! 

See the whole list here (or visit a few samples below)
Educational Freedom and Reform
Homeschooling
Legislation and Policy Proposals
College Debt
Government Reform
Regulation
Waste/Fraud/Abuse
Health Care
Abstinence
Health care reform: Political and Legislative efforts
Homosexuality
With the Supreme Court deciding on same-sex "marriage," read FRC's Peter Sprigg'sblog posts on Defining Marriage.
Human Life and Bioethics
Abortion
Euthanasia and End of Life Issues
Marriage and Family
Family Economics
Family Structure

Sunday, March 31, 2013

Op Ed: Words and Liberals

Liberals pride themselves as having the superior definition of a word. And inappropriately so conservatives have allowed them to be leader of the language and force their definitions on the culture. Their position of dominance regarding prose of the 21st century language is not because they are right, but because they have not been met with a clarifying voice of opposition.

Sadly those who do not know better, due to age and ignorance, are unaware of the verbiage-transformation. Some of the basic words of freedom and goodness of our American heritage have been usurped so to instead fit the destructive progressive agenda. And silent, apathetic, hesitant conservatives are allowing them to play this dangerous game. And, yes, our society is suffering this gradual adjustment.

The words, justice, freedom, equality, tolerance and pride are a few words used for the liberal cause. Re-defining has extended to images as well: for example, as a culture we have allowed certain communities to alter the branding of the rainbow. This creation “thing” is one of the most glorious demonstrations in nature, a specific message from God to remind us of His faithfulness. Yet due to conservatives’ silence, certain communities have skirted opposition in adopting it as their emblem. Their victory is not because there are many of them but because the message is repeated loudly and repetitively both visually and verbally. With no other present and visible alternatives to the meaning, the naive popular culture has gladly embraced this re-branding.

Words are a vital thing of our society. They hold power, persuasion, understanding and literal “feet” to a sentiment or philosophy. Creators of words establish the original intent and definition. When the actual definition of a word is faded, erased or eroded it is not because the definition no longer matters but because it is no longer used.

Conservatives, take heed. The American language is being black-mailed. The war for words is not over but, we need to quit acting like it is. Go back to the original Webster’s Dictionary, the original Greek and Hebrew roots, writings from words craftsmen from the Roman era and you tell me what the intent of those words are. We do not have to try and convince the world of the right meaning of the word, we just need to use it correctly, respectfully, boldly and in a way that honors its true meaning.

My point? Conservatives speak up. If you don’t clear your throat and clarify things, many of the ideas, philosophies and promises attached with the original intent will slip away for forever. Do not let the usurpers and their impostering agenda win.

Future generations will thank you.

- ajh

“To see evil and call it good, mocks God. Worse, it makes goodness meaningless. A word without meaning is an abomination, for when the word passes beyond understanding the very thing the word stands for passes out of the world and cannot be recalled.” 
Stephen R. Lawhead, Author

“The beginning of wisdom is the definition of terms.” 

Friday, March 29, 2013

Description of America – of Yesterday & for Tomorrow


We have to get more people engaged in local government. Russell Kirk, one of the Foundational Thinkers who helped Americans understand the roots of conservatism (and who lived in Michigan!), has described America in a succinct way for me. I have included three paragraphs below. Don’t be dissuaded from reading by their size. 

He has presented the basics that should be common sense to every American. But even to me, a passionate and engaged citizen, has received great revelation and clarification in his prose. I have taken the liberty to embolden certain words that hit home for me…

These powerful passages are from his book, The American Cause:
“…the United States is not a centralized democracy. It does not have government from the top downward; on the contrary, it has government from the bottom upward. Strictly speaking, our government is federal, a union of states for certain explicit purposes of general benefit. Federation is very different from centralization. The theory of federation is this, that fifty sovereign states have conferred, of their own free will, certain powers upon the federal administration, to promote the interests of the several states and of the people within those several states. The United States are united voluntarily, and are united only for the purposes, and under the conditions, described in the federal Constitution. In the matters which most immediately affect private life, power remains in the possession of the several states; while within those fifty states, the people reserve to themselves control over most walks of life. The state governments, like the federal government, have been hedged and checked by constitutions and public custom.

“…Everywhere in America, individuals and private voluntary associations jealously reserve to themselves the rights of choice and action in those spheres of activity which most nearly affect the private person. The state touches these private concerns only upon sufferance, or not at all. Religious belief and affiliation are matters wholly of private choice; economic activity, by and large, is left to the will of individuals; social relationships are voluntary and private relationships; where one lives, and how, is not determined by political authority. Quite as much as in England, an American’s home is his castle. A great many Americans live their lives through without ever conversing with a civil servant, or even saying more than good morning to a policeman. Americans have no official identity card, or internal passports, or system of national registration. Until 1941, America never experienced peacetime conscription into the armed forces. Nowhere in the world is the operation of government less conspicuous than in the United States. If an American citizen desires to abstain altogether from political activity, even to the extent of never voting, no one interferes with him; and for millions of Americans, their only direct contact with government is their annual submission of income-tax reports. Private life looms much larger than public life in the American commonwealth.

Even in those concerns which have been opened to local or state or federal political activity, the theory persists that political authority operates only as a convenience to private citizens. The public schools, for instance, are intended simply to facilitate the education of young people, not to enforce the educational doctrines of central authority; although the states require that children should be schooled in some fashion, parents with the means are free to educate their children privately, or in denominational schools, if they prefer such methods to enrollment in public schools. The American assumption is that education is primarily the concern of the family and the individual, not of the political state; and this frame of mind extends to many more activities in which the state acts as servant, rather than as master.

“…So in America the things in which people are most interested generally remain strictly within the jurisdiction of private life. And in matters of public concern, it is the American habit to keep authority as close to home as possible. The lesser courts, the police, the maintenance of roads and sanitation, the raising of property-taxes, the control of public schools, and many other essential functions still are carried on, for the most part, by the agencies of local community: the township, the village, the city, the county. American political parties, in essence, are loose local associations: the state and national party organizations are the reflections of local opinion in caucus and town meeting. “
-          The American Cause by Russell Kirk, page 69-71.

Part of the reason this text is so poignant to me is that Russell Kirk tells me what America used to look like, what it should look like and what my generation should work towards making it again.

The older generations are alarmed at the absence of young adults’ participation in the cry to oppose the growing government. Russell Kirk’s book was initially published in 1957 (it has had updates since then). Since that first printing, much has happened to the culture where those born in the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s need to read a book like this not only to understand, many for the first time, what government’s role is supposed to look like but who and what America truly is – a haven for a free, independent and responsible people.

For your convenience, here is a direct link to Amazon. When you’re purchasing it – say a prayer that these powerful descriptions of the beauty of America become obvious again to the generation who is stepping up to lead it.

- ajh

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Op Ed: It's Time to Tell Us No


We have forgotten about the transition of aging; the ending of childhood; and the potential of the hard work of youth.

As a Millennial, my charge is this: It is okay to say no. With good intention of our elders, we have been enabled, babied and spoiled. We do not need more stuff, more freedom or more allowance as a young person. The younger generation needs to learn that money does not grow on trees, the government is not nor should it be the “parent” of freedom, and liberty does not come without a price.

The aspects that have made America great still reside in each one of us. The God given inalienable rights to improve ourselves, to provide for our posterity, to be prudent with our dollar, and to experience the hard work of our hands, are available to the next generation. But unless we have a need to experience it, we will give in to our base humanity that is lazy, irresponsible and self-indulging. In other words, if you provide it, we’ll calibrate our lives so that your provision is sufficient and our labor is not necessary.

You can tell your teenager to turn off the video games and get a job; no, your son and his girlfriend cannot live in your basement; no, you will not sign a car loan for an unemployed daughter; no, you will not get your child a smart phone; no, you do not still need to do your post college child’s laundry. It is time you forced us and allowed us to transition.

Set yourself free as a generous and benevolent adult. With loving observation let the younger people fend for themselves. The taste of desperation and failure pushes one on to a pursuit for prosperity and success. With you by their side, at a healthy distance, the young people will succeed. They cannot fail. This nation is great. It has given us the system, tools and freedoms to succeed. It’s time we started to experience it. 

- ajh

Published at: http://amyjhawkins.blogspot.com/ 

(Writer's Note: If you are interested in using this piece in your newspaper, blog, website etc, please feel free to do so. Would you email me and let me know how you have used it? I hope it helps. Thank you! amyjaynehawkins@gmail.com)

Additional Article "The Millennials" http://amyjhawkins.blogspot.com/2012/06/millennials-official-piece-by-amy.html

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

World Leaders on Twitter: The Phonebook

It is possible I am the happiest dork ever when I poked around scribd.com, a fantastic place for document-sharing, and found this World Leader Twitter Directory!

How fabulous! Pick your world leader - and follow! How profound of an age we live in where our knowledge and monitoring of latest happenings has no bounds.

AJH

Monday, January 7, 2013

Social Media & Local Politics

Article on Mashable.com about social media & local politics
Remember when you were a teenager, and you were confronted with a decision or change you had to face? You did not want to do it. But your parents would say "Son, you are old enough to ..." or "Daughter, you have procrastinated this long enough so get it over with now..." Ring a bell?

Call me a technology parent or whatever you will, but my patience is about to grow very low for adults - of any age - who say "I want to influence things! I am frustrated that things won't change! I need to get their attention, etc, etc" but will say in the next breath "but I don't 'get' that technology thing. I don't have time to learn. You can't teach an old dog new tricks..." Patience? Gone. It's time for you to deal with it and master technology - or else quit complaining that the Millennials don't get the conservative message.

I've just gone through this fascinating article on social media and local politics. I've been engaged in technology for awhile - and there are some delightful morsels it exposed to me! There are new tools leaders are trying; new horizons they are pursuing; and new formats they are embracing.

I'm not a JFK baby so I did not remember this but wow! It's a good historical moment to take note of!

"And just as a youthful John F. Kennedy benefited from his grasp of television in the 1960 elections, a new generation of local politicians is using its tactical advantage as digital natives to woo the electorate and launch open government initiatives."

A 25 year old mayor out of NJ, Alex Torpey is utilizing technology for the good of the local constituents.

"...Torpey also deploys Instagram to promote local events and Foursquare to announce his whereabouts to constituents. He's exploring crisis mapping platforms to initiate SeeClickFix for municipal services, and he's interested in trying Localocracy.com, a means to promote voter registration and engagement among the young."

My plea to learn technology is not just based on a 5th grade "Join the cool kids club" popularity contest. But it is becoming the apparatus in our war of ideas, and battle for control of the market places. The article continues:

"University of Washington professor Philip Howard (currently a fellow at Princeton) notes some new research on how different politicians approach digital media. "Republicans tend to use digital media for coordinating their message, broadcasting out content that has been drafted from senior campaign officials, and policing each other's political values," he observes. "Democrats tend to use digital media for engagement, conversations, and sometimes slip up because they debate and don't stay on message as well. Professional campaign managers at all levels dislike social media because using it results in some loss of message control.""

You see, it's not just a 'cool resource' but it's a resource that can be used for bringing change. But the change comes through us the users who then utilize the medium. The medium cannot speak for itself. Even if you are not pumping forth messages of truth through these technology mediums, the opposition is. The younger generation has already "gone there" to the tech world. And if you won't follow, please don't complain as to why the Millennials (and younger!) have not stayed behind to listen to your message.

And this statement rests my case:

"...it's useful to recall that it's still the early days of this movement. None of the most influential social networks in question –- Facebook, Twitter or YouTube — have reached their tenth birthdays, while Pinterest and Foursquare are still in their infancies. As digital natives make their way in the world, social media will continue to overhaul American democracy in new and unexpected ways..."

It is possible that the future of our nation rests not just on whether the next generation of leaders understands and embraces conservatism and traditional family value philosophy but instead, whether you are ready with a narrative that is in their lingo, using a medium that they understand.

ajh

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Absolutely Not

Absolutely not ... is any form of abortion okay for any certain reason.

Absolutely not... is extramarital affairs justified.

Absolutely not... is dishonesty acceptable, regardless of its size.

Absolutely not... is impurity satisfactory before a Pure and Holy God.

Absolutely not ... is everything permissable and beneficial.

Absolutely not ... is faithfulness impossible.

Absolutely not... is government worthy of entry into every part of our lives.

Absolutely not... shall we take the shed blood of others for granted as we throw away our freedom.

Absolutely not... will we be a people enjoying God's blessings if we misuse and blashpheme His name.

Absolutely not ... does our own happiness qualify for higher importance than anything else it affects.

Absolutely not... is our complaining and whining defend-able due to someone else's action (or lack thereof).

Absolutely not... is it okay for parents to fill the role primarily as friends and not principals in children's lives who train, discipline, mentor and love.

Absolutely not ... is it okay for us to deflect our individual responsibilities on someone else.

Absolutely not ... is it okay to disregard the consequences when contemplating a serious decision. And absolutely not is it okay to assume our decisions and actions do not affect others.

Absolutely not... is stealing acceptable because we are "worthy" in our own minds.

Absolutely not ... is truth relative.

Absolutely not... is it okay for instructors, professors and teachers to take advantage of their profession and not teach students how to be objective thinkers.

Absolutely not... shall we expect the blessings of Providence, Divine wisdom and help by His hand if we continue to mock, ignore and shun His guidelines.

We can do better than this, America. The journey to excellence as a nation and as individuals is not easy. But the place of true freedom, happiness and blessing starts with absolutes, absolutely defined by an un-compromising, forgiving and very good God.